High Achievers, Let That Sh*t Go! You Don’t Have to Carry It Anymore

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Hey love,

If you’ve been waking up exhausted even after eight hours of sleep, wondering why everything still feels heavy even when you’re doing “all the right things”—I want you to breathe with me for a second.

In...

Out...

Now hear this:

You’re not lazy.

You’re not broken.

You’re just carrying too much.

And honestly? It’s time to start letting some of that sh*t go.

High Achiever, Meet Emotional Backpack

If you're a high-achieving, always-juggling, never-resting, gotta-have-it-together human

(hey, me too), you probably don’t even realize how full your emotional backpack is.

What’s in there?

• Old beliefs like “I have to earn rest” or “If I slow down, I’ll lose everything”

• Guilt for not doing more—even when you’re already doing the most

• Shame from past moments where you “failed,” or felt like you weren’t enough

• Silent pressure to be the strong one, the successful one, the resilient one

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That backpack? It’s heavy. And you’ve been carrying it for years. No wonder you’re tired.

Spoiler Alert: Your Next Level Doesn’t Need Your Baggage

We get so used to the grind, the performance, the prove-your-worth energy that we forget this simple truth:

You can’t expand if your arms are full of things that are weighing you down.

And that next version of you? The one who feels lit up, aligned, magnetic, and at peace?

She doesn’t live in survival mode. She doesn’t hustle for her worth. She doesn’t say yes when her body’s screaming no.

She’s already inside you—you just need to clear space for her to breathe.

But What Does “Letting Go” Actually Mean?

Let’s make this super practical.

Letting go doesn’t mean quitting your job, disappearing from the group chat, or pretending life isn’t stressful.

Letting go means:

• Releasing the lie that your productivity = your value

• Allowing yourself to rest without guilt

• Saying “no” more often, and not explaining yourself afterward

• Feeling your feelings—yes, even the messy ones

• Giving your past self grace, not judgment

  
  

Sometimes letting go looks like journaling in bed with a messy bun and a cup of tea. Sometimes it’s crying in the shower because you finally let it out. Sometimes it’s unfollowing people who trigger the “I’m not enough” spiral. And sometimes? It’s canceling plans because you need silence more than stimulation.

It’s all valid. It’s all sacred.

If You’re Feeling This, You’re Not Alone

Let me drop a little truth here: most of the high achievers I work with (and love) are carrying invisible grief.

Grief over the parts of themselves they had to silence to be accepted.

Grief over childhood wounds that no one ever apologized for.

Grief over the emotional labor they give without ever being asked how they are doing.

If this hits home, I want you to know—your grief is not too much. Your emotions are not a burden. And healing is not something you have to earn.

You deserve lightness. Joy. Play. Peace. Excitement.

Not because you checked everything off your list.

Just because you’re human.

Okay, So… How Do We Actually Start Letting Go?

Let me give you something small—but powerful—to try.

Ask yourself this (you can journal it, voice note it, think on it while you walk or drive):

“What am I still holding on to that’s keeping me from becoming who I’m meant to be?”

Don’t overthink it. Let whatever wants to come up, come up. A belief, a memory, a feeling.

Maybe even a person or a role you’ve been playing.

Then ask yourself this:

“Am I willing to release it, even just a little?”

You don’t have to burn it all down. You just have to start loosening your grip.

One belief. One boundary. One brave choice at a time.

Letting Go = Reclaiming You

The best part about letting go? You start to remember who you are underneath all the performing, proving, and pushing.

You start to say things like:

• “Actually, I don’t want to do that.”

• “That doesn’t feel like a yes anymore.”

• “I need rest. Not because I earned it—because I’m alive.”

• “I’m allowed to feel good in my life now, not just when I reach the next goal.”

  
  

You stop living on autopilot. You start living with intention.

And when you live with intention? Your goals start aligning with your joy. Your relationships deepen. Your creativity flows again. And your nervous system finally exhales.

That’s not fluff. That’s freedom.

Why This Work Feels So Hard (and Why You’re So Brave for Doing It)

Letting go is simple.

But it’s not easy.

Because your identity might be wrapped up in the very thing that’s burning you out.

You’ve probably been praised your whole life for being the overachiever. The one who never quits. The one who keeps it together. So the idea of doing less, softening, slowing down?

Feels like failure. Feels unsafe. Maybe even a little terrifying.

But hear me loud and clear: You are not failing. You are finally healing.

And that takes courage most people will never understand.

Let’s Talk Nervous Systems Real Quick

This isn’t just emotional or spiritual work—it’s also biological.

Your nervous system has been wired for hustle, pressure, performance...survival.

Which means slowing down might feel deeply uncomfortable at first. Like something’s wrong.

But it’s not wrong. It’s unfamiliar. And unfamiliar doesn’t mean unsafe.

It just means you’re entering a new chapter.

One where your body doesn’t live in fight-or-flight anymore. One where your inner child feels safe. One where joy and ease aren’t luxuries—they’re your new normal.

Sound dreamy? That’s because it is. And it’s possible for you.

You’re Not Here to Just Cope—You’re Here to Thrive

Let me say this with all the love in my heart:

You were not put on this Earth to constantly manage your emotions and micromanage your success.

You’re here to feel deeply, live fully, and make an impact that feels good in your soul.

And guess what? You don’t have to do it all perfectly to be worthy of that.

You don’t have to “fix” yourself first. You don’t need to wait for the next milestone. You don’t need to keep pushing through the pain just because you always have.

You get to change. You get to heal. You get to be happy.

And that starts with letting go of the story that says you have to do it all, be it all, carry it all.

You don’t.

Before You Go: Here’s a Hug and a Reminder

Here’s what I hope you take away from this:

• You’re not behind. You’re becoming.

• Slowing down doesn’t mean stopping—it means listening.

• Rest is not a reward. It’s a right.

• The version of you who’s free, at peace, and fully alive? She’s not far. She’s waiting for space.

  
  

So start today.

Let go of one thing.

Say no to one draining obligation.

Choose one thought to release.

Give yourself one moment of rest.

You’re doing enough. You are enough.

And your healing? It matters more than anything you’ll ever check off a list.

Need a little support as you navigate all this?

Let’s do it together. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

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I see you. I love this journey you’re on.

And I’ll be here cheering for every beautiful step you take.

You’ve got this. 💛

Sarah